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Loving Those Who Overthink, Are Depressed, or Hate Themselves
(Or a Guide to Handling Your Cupcake)
1) No matter how many times it's necessary, argue. Every time they vent about how hideous, worthless, or moronic they think they are, fight it. Day in and day out, no matter how much they don't believe you, they still want to hear it. They need it, but they won't ask for it.
Maybe once and a while you don't want to start a full on debate. Simply tell them, if they don't tell you, that you don't want to fight again. Just tell them they already know you think they are amazing and move on to talk about more pleasant things.
Maybe once and a while you don't want to start a full on debate. Simply tell them, if they don't tell you, that you don't want to fight again. Just tell them they already know you think they are amazing and move on to talk about more pleasant things.
2) Try not to leave them upset. Chances are, if they are already upset, it'll just get worse once you leave. If you care enough, they will be smiling before they can stop themselves. It's a five minute effort, but the cheerfulness will stay much longer than that.
3) Don't lie about your own problems. If they are reminded other people have issues too, it will help them confide in you. No one needs to keep things built up. Plus, if they can help you, it will make them feel better too.
4) Let them apologize. Sorry. Sorry, to bother you. Sorry. Sorry I had emotions. Sorry. They will apologize for apologizing, so tread carefully. Telling them there's no need to apologize, could lead to another apology. But apologies are harmless in the end.
They don't want to hurt you. They're tiptoeing carefully through every sentence searching and analyzing, trying to make sure you're not angry or offended. Their mind will make up a problem for them to fret and apologize for. Sorry for being sorry.
They don't want to hurt you. They're tiptoeing carefully through every sentence searching and analyzing, trying to make sure you're not angry or offended. Their mind will make up a problem for them to fret and apologize for. Sorry for being sorry.
5) They will consider themselves a pest, a bother, and a whiner. Let them know it's not a problem. You don't mind chatting. A little negativity is all right because everyone has bad days. It's okay to be human, it doesn't make you needy. Just say anything or give them a hug. (Or cookies, cookies work too.)
6) Don't make promises you can't keep. Life happens, and as an over-thinker, they will have already planned for your disappearance. You won't be around forever. One day the conversation will die, at least a little bit. Don't tell them it won't happen. That type of optimism just isn't going to sit with them.
7) They will feel bad about not feeling bad. It's hard for them to worry you about their problems, only to be perfectly fine the next day. It makes them feel hypocritical. Ironically, feeling happy can cause self-hating thoughts that lead to feeling down again. Its a roller-coaster ride, and they can't get off of it.
7) They will feel bad about not feeling bad. It's hard for them to worry you about their problems, only to be perfectly fine the next day. It makes them feel hypocritical. Ironically, feeling happy can cause self-hating thoughts that lead to feeling down again. Its a roller-coaster ride, and they can't get off of it.
8) Never ask them if they want you to stay. The answer is always yes. Either stay or don't, but do not make them send you away. They could be okay until you ask. Just say good-night or good-bye. There's no need to start something.
9) Even if they think they are, never treat them like they're fragile. Its important to keep in mind how quickly they can go from fine to... well... not fine. That doesn't mean they can't handle a conversation. They can go days without more than a blip. Don't treat them like at any minute they could slip back into being sad.
There are things you need to remember with everyone you talk to. You don't joke about death with someone who's mom just died and you wouldn't take someone with PTSD to a gun range if you knew they would be back in hell. I'm not saying every situation is the same, but the principle still applies.
If there is something huge that they don't want to talk about, can't deal with just yet, or makes them upset, just leave that out and continue talking like normal folks.
If there is something huge that they don't want to talk about, can't deal with just yet, or makes them upset, just leave that out and continue talking like normal folks.
10) Not everyone needs to be fixed, and not everyone who does, can be. I'm broken, you may very well be broken, and whoever you were thinking about as you read this could easily be broken. But not everyone can afford to keep buying glue and duct tape and searching for missing pieces. Some people have been knocked to the ground one too many times for someone else to stumble along and try to fit all their pieces back together.
Never set out to try to fix them. They will still cry, going over everything again and again until their mind finally goes blank, at two a.m. from random thoughts. They'll probably scream at their hated reflections and stay up all night wishing you were there. Possibly, they'll become insomniacs because of their busy, fretting mind. They will hurt and they certainly will feel guilty when they complain. But they'll still be there for you in return. And you can always patch each other up, slow and steady.
Either love them for their problems or leave, because they love you and your faulty human soul too. We all need a little mending from time to time, its only natural. But don't follow these words like a biblical text. Just because someone has a minor emotional problem, or a lot of them, doesn't make them some thing that needs to be dissected down and figured out. I'm just trying to make it easier for all of us. Treat them how you would treat any other person you love.
I hope you can bring peace into the world of someone who's hurting now.
~ Miss Cupcake
I hope you can bring peace into the world of someone who's hurting now.
~ Miss Cupcake
Literature
Cutter
“What’s on your arm? What’s on your thigh?”
I scratched myself, darling—but I will be fine.
“What’s on your wrist? And why do you cry?”
Oh, silly—they’re signals, they’re my warning signs.
“Why are there tears coming out from your eyes?”
They show that I’m breaking. My laugh’s a disguise.
“What’s on your forearm? What’s on your mind?”
I’ll be okay, darling.
I just wish to die.
Literature
You're not a failure for failing
Her small, anxious hands
grabbed the cup, a bit too large
as it slipped down and tumbled to the ground,
the milky mess covering the carpet:
her mother let out a disapproving sigh
and rolled her eyes,
“Will you ever do anything right?”
and that’s when she began
to limit her aspirations,
so that her dreams would never be too large,
so she’d never make any mistakes
she’d never again drop the cup,
but she’d never have enough to drink.
Literature
I care
i.
your words drip with crimson
as you bite your lip;
you always liked to pretend
you held the strength of metal,
and now all that’s left is the aftertaste of copper
trickling down your throat-
what happened to the child throwing pennies in the fountain?
ii.
hidden under the threaded sleeves of your sweater,
I can picture your hands shaking like earthquakes
and your fists held clenched;
I worry your fingernails cut dashed lines
into the palms of your hands,
like the ones painted on back roads and highways-
I’m worried where you plan on going
iii.
viewing your puffy eyes and hearing woebegone-winded words
tangle on your tra
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Full title: Loving Those Who Overthink, Are Depressed, or Hate Themselves (Or A Guide to Handling Your Cupcake)
I in no way intend to offend anyone. I definitely overthink and hate myself. Depression? Maybe, but probably not on most days.
I do not mean to suggest that anyone who is heavily pessimistic or depressed needs to have a guide so you know how to be a good friend, partner, family member, etc.
Please do not say anything cruel if you believe I misinterpreted the way people with depression live or feel or anything of the sorts. My intentions are pure.
This is based 98% on my emotions, feelings, and experiences alone.
Critiques and Feedback Needed and Appreciated
I really want to know how you feel. Not just that you liked it. I need to know why!
The more comments the better. Its always helpful!
~ Miss C
Full title: Loving Those Who Overthink, Are Depressed, or Hate Themselves (Or A Guide to Handling Your Cupcake)
I in no way intend to offend anyone. I definitely overthink and hate myself. Depression? Maybe, but probably not on most days.
I do not mean to suggest that anyone who is heavily pessimistic or depressed needs to have a guide so you know how to be a good friend, partner, family member, etc.
Please do not say anything cruel if you believe I misinterpreted the way people with depression live or feel or anything of the sorts. My intentions are pure.
This is based 98% on my emotions, feelings, and experiences alone.
Critiques and Feedback Needed and Appreciated
I really want to know how you feel. Not just that you liked it. I need to know why!
The more comments the better. Its always helpful!
~ Miss C
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Absolutely true and beautiful... This is the sort of thing that makes you take a step back and want to give your dear ones each a great, big hug